Listening is an awesome skill that the majority neglects in our days; people
tend to talk more than listening, while it should be completely the opposite. I
witnessed this in several situations, as an illustration, whenever the chance
comes I and my friends met, we normally do what ordinary people do, which is
indulging in a discussion. Yet, if you contemplate our discussion more
carefully you would notice the same thing I noticed, which is very striking, in
the middle of our conversation we reached the point where we no longer listen
to each other, I mean the «effective listening», where you activate your conscious
and start interpreting what the other is trying to say instead of preparing the
astonishing thing that you will say once the other finishes his or her own
speech. More precisely, we just turned the conversation into a competition, who
talks most wins, each one of us is trying to show how skillful is in talking.
And here where the main purpose behind communicating is missed. Mainly, what we
have here is a failure to communicate.
If we stop for a second and think about this, it would become clearer
for us to see that we truly need to reconsider our behavior while interacting with
people, friends, or family members; remember that in every conversational
event, the person who speaks least benefits most. I have always
wanted to tackle this issue, since the chance comes now; I am going to break it
down for you in more details by providing you with some helpful hints so as to
help you boost and sharpen your listening skill.
1) Be Open-minded while listening: this stands for the idea that while
listening to what the speaker says, do not allow for yourself to be emotionally
triggered, and avoid being so sensitive, instead of doing that you would rather
try to be open to the difference and therefore provide more space for new ideas
and insights to come in, and here where the growth takes place, to put it
simply you accumulate knowledge. And KNOWLEDGE is Power.
2) Watch your body postures: body language plays a very important role to
show interest, for instance while listening to what the other is saying, try to
make eye contact with him or her, that would help you to focus more during the
conversation as well as it encourages more the speaker to open up to you and
tell you everything. Your main duty while someone is talking is to process
every single word he/she says even though the topic doesn’t concern you believe
me one day will, this happened to me so many times.
3) Ask questions: this tool is very helpful and it engages you as well, in
order to be able to ask good questions,
it entails to pay a full attention to what the speaker is saying not only this
but also interpreting what he or she is saying. In my opinion, by applying particularly
this method certainly you will become a great listener.
To sum up, this article is not encouraging you to remain silent, but it
was just an opportunity for all of us to reconsider our behavior while
conversing with one another or collectively, as I mentioned earlier. Don’t you
ever underestimate that Skill!!!
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