how ‘s your relationship with yourself? Is it tense, or cool?

     

       Today I brought to you one of the finest issues launched recently concerning  self-help and self-improvement area, which is « self-compassion », before we get into it, I  have got a few questions for you:  are you hard or easy on yourself ? how you treat yourself  every time something in your life doesn’t go as you want it to ? are you too judgmental about your own inadequacies and faults ? do you treat yourself the way you treat the people you love? why, why not ?

     After having responding to those questions above, at least now you do have an idea about whether you enjoy a high level of self-compassion or you just don’t have any of it. Having compassion for one’s self can be the same as having compassion for others ( friends, family).  Yet in order for you to have compassion for others you must be aware of their sufferings, for instance a friend of yours, it just  happened to lose his/her own job, if you ignored the fact he/she is jobless you won’t  be able to feel compassion for how difficult  his/her  experience is. What truly happens is that you get deeply touched by others’ suffering and then your heart starts responding  in a magical way, you show caring ,warm compassionate feelings, and pity, instead of being harsh or critical towards people. Once you reached this state it means that you have acknowledged the fact that imperfection and failure are apart of the human life.

    Now back to our main concern  “Self-compassion”, it is about treating yourself the way you treat the ones you love,and stop criticizing and rebuking yourself , whenever you feel stuck , or just having a difficult experience. Self-compassion helps you to see that our imperfections, failure, and suffering are the accompaniment of life, by accepting this as a fact and as a human condition shared by all of us, then you will reach the point where you start to embrace your humanness. All these lead to increasing the level of your self-compassion.

   Bear in mind that Self-compassionate people are well aware of the fact that frustration,failure, frictions, and troubles are inevitable so they decided to be more gentle with themselves instead of whipping themselves with self-criticisms.

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Mass Media Effects on Us,,,Mass Media destroys us!

      It is the time to stop being just consumers of media products. Actually media has changed us and affected our perceptions at different levels, what was wrong turned to be right and vice versa. Hence, in my opinion the only way out of this, is through developing a filter that would help us to better analyze and evaluate anything we might find ourselves subjected to. The filter would stand as our point of reference so as to avoid getting overwhelmed by all the messages conveyed by media. One has to bear in mind that most of the things that we see, hear, or read in media is not always true, so we need to be too cautious while consuming their info. It is very important to mention that every single message being sent to us was first designed and then disseminated by professional people who know how we think. Even more they can foresee the kind of influence that their message will be leaving in us.

Here are two examples that truly prove what has been said above:

    1)    Movies That legitimize the act of suicide and make of it such a great thing, instead of picturing it as an awful thing. I did my research and I was perplexed by the hundreds of the movies I found about this particular issue, and how the movie-makers depicted people who made this suicidal behavior as heroes or shereos, which is too bad. I myself I witnessed this crime, in my neighborhood I have heard of some teenagers, who had committed it, the question that always popes into my head: where those immature people brought this idea from? I will leave this question for you open-ended!

               2)    The way women are depicted in media mainly as objects and nothing else more, so all you ladies out there don’t get mad if we treated you as our properties or something that we own. In other words women’s body is being used to increase purchases and selling. And I am telling you this is how it is going to be like or even gets worse, if we don’t wake up and try to see behind the surfaces.

As a conclusion influence is there whether you like it or not, but at least being aware of it and how it processes would help to minimize the damages.

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